I’ve been thinking about the choices we make in life. Sometimes they come easily and sometimes they don’t. Sometimes our choices seem so clear and sometimes there seems to be no choice at all.

I have found myself making choices and decisions in the past from a very different place than I am now.

In the past, some of my choices were based upon
?What I thought was the “right” thing to do
?what I thought others wanted or needed me to do
? what I thought would avoid a painful or undesirable outcome
? what I thought I should be doing
? what I thought would be best for others.

And often those choices left me feeling resentful, regretful and unhappy in the end. A feeling where I wished I could turn back time and make that choice again. Do it differently. And the funny thing was, that often these choices didn’t make other people feel that great either. And often those choices caused exactly what I was trying to avoid in the first place.

It felt like I just couldn’t win.
I was damned if I do and damned if I don’t.
So what has changed?

I realized that making choices is a very individual thing.
I realized that my choices were for me and not for others.
I realized that if I wanted to accept other people’s choices I needed to accept my own.
I realized that If I was making choices that didn’t align with what was important to me, I wasn’t helping and empowering myself and neither was I helping or empowering others in the process.

So now, I make choices based on
?what feels “right” for me
?what is important to me
?what brings me joy
?what feels aligned with my goals, wishes, desires and dreams
? what I know will empower and nourish me.

Why?

Because I am not here on this earth to make decisions for you or other people. I am here, to make decisions aligned with me and to support you and others to do the same.

Because we are the captains of our own wakas (boat). The decision makers of where we choose to sail in the seas of life. And we get to decide who gets to be on our waka and who doesn’t.